As featured in the Island Packet:
Of all the things Jesus was ever credited with saying, John 13:34 might be the most annoying. It is a passage that has challenged people for generations. It is a statement that changes the very way we must live if we are to follow Jesus. That passage reads, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
Most of us are familiar with this passage, but actually attempting to live it out in our lives can get a bit tricky. In essence, it means that if we comply with the command, we will suffer. This is so because the command doesn’t afford us the opportunity for retaliation. There is no revenge to be had, only kindness to be extended.
Think about that for a minute. Say someone gossips or goes about spreading complete falsities around town about us — we aren’t to respond in anything but love.
If someone is rude or insults us, we are called to be pleasant back. When others take comfort in the excesses of greed, we are to be charitable to the point at which we would even give away the things we treasure for the others’ benefit.
Practically speaking, this can be a frustrating principle to live by. Say you go to a restaurant and your waiter is rude, if you are living according to Jesus’ teaching, then you are to be perfectly kind back to him or her — even though you are paying to eat there. When the checkout person rings up your order wrong, you aren’t supposed to sigh and give them angry looks, but instead you are to encourage them as they correct the mistake. If the coffee house messes up your latte seven times straight, you still are supposed to forgive the barista and wait patiently for your drink to be remade. More than that, we are even required to think the best of them in the process.
An additionally irritating aspect of this command is that it requires us to consider other people before we attend to ourselves. In that way it also offers no convenience. Someone might call you at 2 a.m. needing your assistance and you are supposed to eagerly get out of bed to come to his or her aid. People might come to you last minute wanting your help, and it may totally mess up your plans, and still, we are supposed to be helpful. Worse yet, your neighbor who never returns any of your tools might ask you to borrow your lawnmower, and you are commanded to oblige, happily.
What is even more maddening about Jesus’ charge is that it can even create unwanted risk in our lives. If the stranger asks for our help, we are supposed to extend a helping hand even through we don’t know them. If someone is displaced or homeless we are to aid in housing him or her. If you see someone drowning we are to swim to their rescue even when their thrashing about might risk us drowning too. If someone is being attacked we are to defend him or her at our own peril.
In short, what Jesus commands is that we give up our sense of entitlement in exchange for following him. We sacrifice our larger sense of ownership in exchange for being his disciple. We relinquish our convenience in order to be faithful to his charge. We potentially even jeopardize our very selves in order to be his student, because Jesus commands us to change even the very way we think.
So knowing this, one might logically ask: “Why then would anybody agree to be a disciple of Jesus?” And to that question I will simply respond: Because the joy that you will receive through living out Christ’s annoying charge will change your life so profoundly that once you begin living that way nothing else will suffice. You see, Jesus knew something that many of us fail to recognize: Once we realize life isn’t all about us, we actually begin to live.
This new law is my favorite. And I completely disagree with your statement a boy what being kind means “In essence, it means that if we comply with the command, we will suffer. ”
Treating people with unconditional kindness brings light into my heat and soul. I think retaliation is toxic, it darkens your heart and soul.
I wrote this poem
Vengeance Is Mine by Leslie Bianchi
As written, God says, “Vengeance is
Mine,” not to hold humanity to scrutiny
and justice, but rather to alleviate
the blind burden. Vengeance is salt
in our wounds, tempts in flavors of fair,
just, and righteous. This recompense,
whose pretension is to balance infinity, sullies
the waters of love that sustain. The color
of vengeance is evil and humanity corrupts
within the shade it proffers. As written, God
says, “Vengeance is Mine,” claiming
sole right, bestowing upon us choice
to embrace ethical, to live sincerely. God takes
the weight of evil onto good, loving
as oxygen, alluring evil as hydrogen, two-fold:
into purity and fluidity.. As written, “God Created
Man … In God’s Likeness,” apparently
contradicting; yet, faith is human. “An Eye
for an Eye” and “Vengeance is Mine”
are written, so humanity complies. With faith
in mind we look open-eyed and we act blind.
Your examples I see differently too.
(I’ll put my comments about that separately as this keeps deleting.)
Dear Leslie –
Thank You for your comment. To be clear – I agree with your point about retaliation in the context that you’ve expressed! My conversation about suffering is more that we are called to self-sacrifice for others in the name of Jesus. A more detailed and far more eloquent explanation of this comes through Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s work The Cost of Discipleship (sometimes just translated Discipleship). I’d encourage you to get a copy and read it – as it is a wonderful and challenging read. In the mean time know that I applaud your efforts to live into Christ’s commands!
Mark 12:31
The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
Isn’t this what we are talking about?